How to play party 101

Welcome to our guide on attending kink events! Whether you’re a seasoned pro or new to the scene, we’ve compiled some tips and tricks to help you have a fun and safe time. We believe that consent, communication, and personal boundaries are key to any enjoyable sexual experience, and we encourage you to keep these values in mind as you explore your kinks and desires. So sit back, relax, and let’s dive into the world of kink events!

Consider opening a separate email account specifically for your kink activities. This can help protect your personal or professional email from being shared or accessed by others.

When an event asks for pics, just use the ones that are already out there on your social media. That way, you can always claim that a creepy ex stole them from your profile.

Sending nudes? make sure to cover any tattoos or other identifiable marks to protect your privacy.

The best events usually require an application process to weed out the crazies. Plus, it’s always a good sign when an event takes the time to carefully review potential attendees.

Kink events come in all shapes and sizes, from huge play parties to intimate gatherings. Don’t just blindly attend the first event you see – do some research and find the one that speaks to you (and your kinks).

Arriving before things get hot and heavy gives you the chance to mingle and make connections before everyone starts pairing off. Plus, you’ll get first dibs on the good snacks.

You are the queen bees of these events! Most men in the kink community are on the hunt for a female partner who shares their interests. Couples are always looking for a hot third to add to their relationship or for a night of fun. And at a decent event, your safety will always be a top priority.

  • If you don’t connect with anyone at the event, view it as a live porn show and have fun playing with your own partner while you watch others, or if you don’t connect with anybody at the event.

Want to increase your chances of getting accepted to an event? Bring a date! This can be a friend with benefits or a platonic friend who is also interested in exploring their sexuality in a consensual and safe way. Just remember to always ask for consent before doing anything.

Different events will have different rules and expectations, so it’s important to familiarize yourself with them before you arrive. This might include things like dress code, safer sex requirements, or limits on photography. Failing to follow the rules can get you kicked out or banned from future events, so make sure you know what’s expected of you.

Depending on the event, you might want to bring your own toys, condoms, lubricant, or other supplies. This can help ensure that you have access to the things you need, especially if you have specific needs like size of condoms or preference of toys. Bringing your own supplies also helps to reduce the risk of STIs by avoiding shared toys.

If you’re attending the event with a partner, make sure to keep the lines of communication open. Talk about your boundaries and expectations beforehand, and make sure you check in with each other throughout the event. This can help prevent misunderstandings and ensure that everyone is having a good time.

Kink events can be a great opportunity to explore new experiences and push your boundaries. Don’t be afraid to say yes to something that interests you, but also remember that it’s okay to say no if something doesn’t feel right. Remember to always respect other people’s boundaries as well.

It’s always a good idea to have a clear head when engaging in potentially risky activities. While it’s okay to have a drink or two, try to avoid getting too intoxicated, as this can impair your judgment and make it more difficult to communicate and consent.


Kink events can be a diverse and welcoming place, and you’re likely to meet people with a wide range of interests and experiences. Don’t be judgmental or assume that you know what someone else is into – everyone has their own unique desires and boundaries.

We hope these tips have been helpful in preparing you for your next kink event! If you have any additional tips that you think would be valuable to others, we’d love to hear them.

 Thanks for reading, and we look forward to hearing from you!