Frequently asked questions

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We celebrate an enthusiastic consent, openness, kink, community, authenticity, exploration, contribution, all bodies, and orientations.

We do not tolerate: aggression, boundary pushing, non-consensual behavior, making others feel uncomfortable, judgment.

This is a place devoted to celebrating human connection in all its intimate forms. A place to uncover, discover, and explore parts of yourself. A place to challenge yourself to give and receive more than you ever imagined you could.

No, this is a safe space where you can feel free to take it as far are you are comfortable. If you would like to just observe or spend the evening dancing, that is perfectly fine.

Never assume you have consent. As a rule always ask before attempting to initiate physical contact whether they are actively playing or not and especially if they are mid-play.

Don’t take it personally, everyone has their particular types – you may just not be their type! Best advice is to take it with grace and wish them a great night. There are always more fish in the sea.

Our hosts are there to ensure that you have a fun and safe time. It is up to them to participate but they are usually busy making sure the party runs smoothly.

Many of our guests are polyamorous.

We want to know you as a person giving you the freedom to come alone or as a couple.

Intimate has a zero drug tolerance policy. Alcohol is BYOB. We will label each person’s liquor and provide mixers for your drinks. We reserve the right to cut anyone off if we feel they appear to be overly intoxicated. At the end of the night your alcohol is yours to take home.

The amount of participants varies with each event but it never exceeds 40 people.

INTIMATE’s goal is to provide a safe, sexy, place for people new to the lifestyle. However, we welcome sexy veterans who can show the newbies the ropes.

Age is just a number! Participants are usually in their mid 20s to late 30s with few exceptions.

Condoms are provided. However we highly suggest you bring your own lubricant and toys. We will provide wipes in the bathrooms for your convenience in the event that you want to use your toys with different people.

Heavens no! How boring would that be? All persuasions are welcome. Please be sure to ask before you initiate any physical play with anyone.

It’s fun to watch, just don’t be creepy. If you want to do more than casually watch, then you might want to find someone to participate with. Most players are quite comfortable with the voyeurism and find it a turn-on, however, hovering too closely and staring over a play session can make something sexy turn creepy.

We ask that all participants at INTIMATE be healthy, STD-free, use condoms or dams if desired and be mindful of their toys. The sheets will be freshly washed. If you are concerned with playing in an area that others have already used you are more than welcome to bring towels to lie down. We also have two bathrooms on the play floor with showers and towels.

We suggest you wear something that makes you feel strong and sexy, but no street clothes. A good rule of thumb is to think of a cocktail party attire with something naughty under it.

-Have fun
-Loosen up 
-Ask first
-Use your discretion to determine boundaries and the overall vibe of the room
-Communicate clearly with other participants

-Be creepy 
-Force any physical contact or initiate without approval
-Act rude with guests-hosts-performers

We have one bathroom on the ground floor and two bathrooms on the lower level that you are free to use to change your garments throughout the night.

We hope you enjoy the party! Remember as Intimate members (and as adults) you are responsible for your own behavior. This is a fun and safe sexual environment and conflict/violence will not be tolerated. We reserve the right to remove anyone who is not acting in accordance with our Code of Conduct.